STAGES OF HAVING A CRUSH (UNREQUITED, LADIES POV)

Hi Hartians! Would you allow me to take advantage of the love-month once more? 😄 I'll promise you'll still see something art-related like that posted painting! 😊

For so many times in my crushlife I've figured out the most common occurrence when a girl like me is having a thing on somebody. The list I'll mention below may not apply to everyone, but probably more or less, you encountered them all!

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1. WHOOPS! AWKWARD- Imagine when you sneeze a lot of times and feel something rough in your throat then you began concluding: "I'm going to catch a cold!" In the case of the first crushing symptom, it's the same as the sneezing signs! You really don't want to have a cold but the signs wants to trigger them! You don't even think that these signs are "crush-things". Have you noticed the handsome features of that guy, the way he smiles, how he moves, Isn't he awesome? But omhaygash when he comes near me why am I feeling a bit sweaty?

2. DENY AS MUCH AS YOU CAN- There is an inner denial upon having noticing that guy's assets simply because you don't want to see yourself having a crush on him. There's inner dramas like: "Don't you dare to fall for him! I don't want another heartace!" or, "Why bother crushing him I don't even stand a chance!" or "He's not really handsome he's just fair-skinned!"

3. ADMIT IT- "Maybe it's true that I have a crush on him. But just a little crush." From the awkward stage up to this stage, all of those crushing dillemas are only found within yourself. It means that only YOU has the full knowledge that you have a crush on him, not even your closest friend knows about this. In this part you feel very secured about your secret. Your mind tells that whatever happens you're not going to tell this to anyone because you're super-duper afraid that someone might know or that HE might know about it. Just act normal.

4. FRESH CRUSH- Right after the acceptance, you just welcomed the fact that having a crush on him would be totally different than when you don't have that thing. The silly manifestations starts to happen such as:
- Wherever you look you always see his' face.
- You can't get him out of your mind no matter how you kept yourself busy.
And having experienced these signs, a few more moments you'll find them kinda distracting. You'll somehow be out of your mind but this won't last long.

5. HIGH PEAK- Suddenly, that day came where everything seems to be in favor between you and your crush, and because of the heightened emotions of happiness, the fear of somebody knowing your secret begins to subside. You find it somehow impossible to keep it to yourself that's why you started telling about this to your nearest friend or relative, yet still you don't want that guy to have any clue about your feelings. You also begin to become curious about him, and can't tame yourself without searching for his' social media accounts.

6. EXPECTING FOR MORE- It's like a climax in a story. You're quite having a good time with your crush yesterday. "Ohh what's next? Will he talk to me more often?" Whatever you just experienced during the high peak, you're so excited for this good feeling to continue and you expect it would go to the next level. You smile at the random moment and your friends came teasing you cause' you look like crazy.

7. FALLING ACTION- just as when you started expecting for more due to all the "kilig" moments you had with him, this unexpected stage suddenly comes into scene. High peaks begin to fall down. You just visualized what spark the two of you would gonna be in the next days yet today, you just didn't saw him. "Oh why on earth I cannot see him around?".

8. SADNESS- High peaks are totally gone, not only because you miss him, but also because you kept on craving for sparks or what you call "kilig factor" which slowly fades away now. This is the start of hated stage of crushing someone.You want to maintain and sustain the spark but you just can't do something about it knowing that he might never felt the same way all this time. Happy fantasies over. Reality hurts. Now you smile like an idiot because of those happy memories but at the same time, undeniably sad!

9. BORED- You became tired cause' it seems like all the happy side of crushing on him was now replaced by all these sadness and even more. Also, not to mention that you began to find out he's into somebody instead of you. You wished you never had a crush on him from the first place.

10. THE LAST- The spark is about to die and there's now a higher chance to have a crush on somebody else, either to like another and suffer the same process again or just to let life flows the love it offers.

But we all deserve a love, not this sort of temporary silliness.

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